On today’s new episode on The DoubleVision Conditioning Centre you’ll learn:
- About the “Gap”
- People focus on what they haven’t achieved
- We never become satisfied when we focus on unattained goals
- Look back at what you’ve achieved
- Focus on progress and not perfect
Transcript:
Hi! This is Stephen and Mark from TheDVCC.com,
The place to be for fat loss and toning advice.
Now, today we’re going to be talking about another one of our favorite concepts, and that’s what’s known as the “Gap.”
Now, the Gap, we found to be massively, massively important for all clients when they’re going through a transformation because often, they’ll get into the Gap.
Now, the Gap actually relates to what most people are very used to doing, and that’s focusing on what they haven’t yet achieved, rather than looking back at what they have achieved.
So, if you envision the Gap as being like the horizon where everyone has some goals and some ideals that they’re actually striving towards, but the problem with those ideals and goals is that they move forward.
So, for example, what has happened before, a client’s goal is to lose say two stone.
They’ll lose two stone, but what happens is their ideal moves forward.
So they then suddenly think, “Oh, I’m not happy because I should lose three stone or four stone.”
But basically, they forget where they’ve come from and they forget that they’ve actually lost those two stone already and that they’re feeling great and looking much better.
They’re focusing on an ideal, something that they haven’t yet achieved.
And we’re very, very good as human beings – I think we must learn it from a very young age – to focus on what we haven’t achieved rather than giving ourselves a pat on the back and looking at what we have achieved.
Now this Gap phenomenon is very important in fat loss, but it actually is very important in anything that we do.
We, as human beings, generally we’re goal setters, goal strivers, we just strive towards goals. But if we get into the habit of actually constantly looking towards the horizon, basically looking towards our goals that we haven’t yet achieved, we’ll find that we’re actually never satisfied.
So even when we do hit a target or hit a goal, we won’t be thinking about well done, we’ve hit that target.
We’ll be thinking about what we haven’t yet achieved and we’ll have this sense of dissatisfaction constantly, no matter what actually happens.
So, one of the ways we get our clients to stay out of the Gap is to focus, look back at where they’ve actually come from constantly because that confidence, that really sets you up to keep making progress.
Because if you’re constantly looking at what you haven’t achieved, what you’ll find is that your confidence levels drop down, and then everything becomes harder.
What we find as transformation experts is when people’s confidence lower, they tend to get hit or knocked off course a lot easier than when their confidence is high.
For example, they may struggle to find the right food. And when their confidence is low, they’re far more likely to binge.
And therefore, far more likely to knock themselves off course. When your confidence is high and you’re focusing on what you have achieved, you’ll find that everything else comes easier.
So, it’s really important to focus on progress and not perfection.
And I’d love to hear from you. Have you experienced the Gap? Are you going through the Gap now? And what have you done to try and get yourself out of the Gap?
Comment below and we’ll be pleased to hear from you.
